Risks of dating someone with hiv
“Remember, the Sexual Offences Act has criminalised deliberate exposure,” she says.At the end of the day, though, it is everyone’s responsibility to take care of their own health.They used condoms for the first two months of dating, “then one day we just did it without,” she says. After that I had a pregnancy scare which turned into a HIV scare. “I’d go out with my friends, meet guys and engage in some harmless flirting. He asked me if there was something he needed to know, like my health status.We got tested and both the pregnancy and our HIV status turned out negative.” Mary hasn’t dated anyone else since, but she says that next time, she will find a way to bring up the HIV conversation before discarding the condom. Knowing a partner’s HIV/Aids status is meant to be one of those early deal-breaker pieces of information, but people seem to be more concerned about not offending their potential partner with the conversation. When I’d leave to go to the bathroom, one of my girlfriends would tell the guy, ‘Be careful with that girl, she has Aids,’ despite the fact that being HIV positive doesn’t mean you have Aids.”She dated one man for four months during which she didn’t tell him her status because her girlfriends warned her that it would scare him away. And I knew that he knew.” That was the end of that.
It is a tug of war.“When one person is infected and has an undetectable viral load, there’s little risk of transmitting the virus to the other party and so some choose not to tell – especially if it’s casual sex.But in case of long-term relationships, the parties need to discuss this at length.“HIV should be an everyday discussion among couples, just to ensure that they continue to safeguard their negative status, rather than continue in ‘good faith’ and end up being infected.I think we are far from discussing or just letting anyone know our status the way one would do with diabetes or cancer.You could catch a different type of HIV from your partner, which could make your disease worse or mean that you need to change medicines.You should use protection with oral sex, too -- a condom or dental dam. HIV is only in certain bodily fluids: blood, semen, and vaginal and anal secretions.