Dating too nice
The truth is that nobody really deserves anything, except for human decency, which, if you’re not a monster, is a perfectly feasible feat. No one has to be interested because you held the door or awkwardly helped us take off our jacket.
Hearts are not so easily bought, they are won, by guys who are nice.
Maybe you’re not getting dates because you’re too nice.
Say you went on a date with someone who seemed perfectly NICE. Say you felt what might have been the brief stirrings of attraction, or maybe it was just the beer, or you’re not really sure, but he’s just so NICE.
Maybe you feel a little bad because he’s so NICE, and so you let him upstairs, despite the fact that you’d really like to send him on his way. Feeling guilty that someone has been NICE to you is precisely how you find yourself giving a desultory handjob while making grocery lists in your head. Wait for the guy who is nice and let him win you over.
A guy who is nice will to go dinner at a place that was chosen by both parties, perhaps even with some friendly banter over which restaurant is preferable.
A guy who is nice will offer to pay but certainly won’t force the issue if you throw down your debit card and offer to split the check.
You have to want to have it happen and want it more than you fear it.