Dating cold Chat jasm
Feeling fed up with this guy’s behavior, I decided to give him a piece of my mind. M wrote back to say that work had gotten in the way and asked if we could speak by phone.I suggested he send me his number and said I would text him that evening to see if it was a good time to talk.I understand how you feel, a lot of men wouldn't ask me out because they thought I would turn them down because I was pretty and popular. But on the other hand, if he doesn't open up to you, and show you that he is completley into you, then he isn't ready to stop playing. I asked him if he wanted me to go away so he can go try his luck elsewhere. So at the end of the day, we were both upset and hurt...Guys like that love a pretty face, but are always looking for prettier. I don't want to be the one who he blows cold air at.
A second date would also help me decide about some potential red flags (a brief Vegas-stye second marriage that was annulled, some X-file type comments that intrigued me but had me wondering). I said no and he said the same when I inquired about him. M paid the bill, he said he didn’t want to leave and we ended up sitting for a bit by the jazz combo that was playing before he walked me to my car. I had a short commute home but during that time Mr. M so I was surprised when the next evening, he sent a text: “Had a wonderful time last night am little afraid to start cause I don’t want to have another failed relationship…will call u later Hope you are having a great day” My first thought: WTF???We stayed at the bar for 3 hours, a long first date by most standards. M talked more than me (a general pattern with guys) but I liked that he showed his vulnerability and love of family.His body language (lots of arm touching and eye contact) conveyed that he was into me and I liked him too.I would want to be the one who he is happy to see, be the special girl in his life who brightens his day, and who has a few kind words in return.There is nothing worse than giving and not getting anything in return.