Boyfriend is on dating sites
I know I am being sneaky/snoopy by checking up on him to see how often her goes on the site (and he goes on often! It’s not like I’d call this guy my boyfriend already, I know it’s still early… Author’s note: I have expanded the content of this article since it’s original post (as I do from time to time).This is thanks, in part, to your excellent comments and questions from the audience.Are you both equally committed to moving in together?When this sort of thing happens it really hurts regardless of the motive, we know the find other women attractive but we don't want them to talk to them even if it is for an ego boost.As such, some of the comments (which I have preserved) bring up points that I have since addressed in this revision.Right off the top, you mentioned that you and he have agreed to be exclusive.But one stood out for another dating site although use the term dating loosely.It just didnt look right but I still thought it might be an old one so I set up an acct on the site and searched for him and it showed hed logged in this week I logged into the acct as him and he had been sending winks etc to people on the back of this I checked his email more and he is a member of various sites all the same type of thing he isnt a paid member of any so cant actually read messages so I guess its just chatting hes doing.
If he was just having normal conversations on there then why didn't he tell you about it. Yep I do think you should talk to him about it and find out what his motives are xx Im almost 100% sure he wouldnt take it any further but it just makes me doubt myself you know what am i not doing or what is missing with me and yes i know how much of a sap that makes me sound i honestly think hes using it as an ego boost its just the one thing i always thought id never worry about with him as his ex cheated on him numerous times so he knows how things like that make you feel.this is separate, but I want to address it for your sake in general).If I were in your shoes, I would say something along the lines of: “Hey listen…I am asking because I don’t know if this agreement is assumed on your part or if he explicitly said, “Yes, you and I are exclusive…” or, better yet, “I want to be exclusive with you.” I’ll explain why I bring that up in a moment, but at any rate I agree with you that checking his dating profile seems out of step with having an exclusive relationship with you…I also wouldn’t even classify this as snooping, per se. You didn’t somehow break into and read his emails or texts.
There are so many of these sites now that are very tempting, facebook, dating sites, affair sites etc.